How to Be a Present Father: The One Habit That Shapes Your Kids
The Shepherding Dad | Ben and Will Markham

Ben Markham • Lead Pastor
June 15, 2026

6 Minute Read

Most dads believe that being in the house counts as being there. You come home, you settle in, and you tell yourself the kids know you love them. But there is a difference between being home and being present, and your children feel it long before they can name it.

The good news is that the gap is closing. Back around 1965, fathers were spending roughly 2.5 hours per week with their children. By the early 2000s, that number had climbed to about 6.8 hours, nearly tripling. Today, millennials and Gen Zers just stepping into fatherhood spend around 7.8 hours per week with their kids on what is measured as childcare activities. It does not mean they are playing a game during every one of those hours, but it does mean they are with them. For all the complaints older generations love to lodge against the younger ones, something about the next generation is getting fatherhood right. Presence is a big deal. Presence has impact.

What Does It Mean to Be a Present Father?

A present father is one whose nearness has weight in the home. The world has changed since 1965, and values have changed even more, but the truth beneath it all has not moved: when you are there, it changes your child.

This is the first characteristic of a shepherding dad, and it is woven straight through Psalm 23. You see it in verse two, where He lets me lie down in green pastures and leads me beside still waters. You see it in verse four, where even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. The reason given is not a strategy or a technique. It is a presence: for You are with me. The Lord shepherds by being with His sheep, and that is the model handed to every father.


Presence Has Impact

There is a video circulating on social media that captures this with painful clarity. A mother set up an experiment with her three pre-teen children, two boys and a girl, alongside their father. She lined all four of them against a wall and read out a series of prompts, asking them to step forward if a statement was true of their experience. The exercise drew a sharp contrast between the way these children were being raised, with a father present in their lives, and the way that same father had been raised without one.

At the end, she turned to her husband and said, "Thank you, honey, for breaking the cycle." Here was a man who had grown up without a present father, and that absence did not become his inheritance to pass down. He chose to be present anyway. That is the heart of it. The cycle you were handed is not the cycle you are required to repeat.


The Difference Between Being Home and Being Present

I grew up with what I believe was a very present father. But years later, he noticed something about my parenting that he had never seen in his own, and it caught me completely off guard.

When my kids were small, around one and three, my dad came down from Cadillac, Michigan, to visit us in the lower part of the state. He was in town for a conference and spent close to a week with us. During that visit, he noticed a difference between his fathering and mine, and when he told me about it, it shocked me because, in my memory, he had always simply been there.

In his own words, what caught his attention was this: "When Ben got home, he was home. He wasn't doing other things. He was home with his family." He went on to describe his own younger years honestly. He was a bivocational pastor, commuting 70 miles each way to Lansing, and he thought he was a great ballplayer, so he played on three separate softball teams. "I always had stuff that I thought was really important for me to do when I got home, whenever that was," he said. "Ben would get home, and they did stuff together. They played games together. It was a fun time, something for the kids to look forward to. And I just always remembered having something I needed to do."

Here is what struck me. What I was doing with my kids when I got home was simply what I most enjoyed doing with them. I did not know there was a difference in volume. My dad saw a shift in volume that I could not see in myself. That is how presence works. It is rarely about a single dramatic decision. It is about where your attention goes in the ordinary hours after you walk through the door.


How Do You Stay Present With Teenagers?

If small children feel your presence, teenagers test it. My dad has become even more intentional as a grandfather, and two of his granddaughters, my nieces Ava and Jenna, twins now 15, show what that looks like.

His conviction is simple: "Grandparenting is an opportunity to make the most important thing the most important thing." Once a month, his school district holds a late-start Monday, and on those mornings, he takes the girls out for breakfast. When they first started going, the girls were buried in their phones. So he set a boundary: "If I'm paying for breakfast, you're going to be with me, because wherever you are, be there."

That single boundary changed everything. Granddaughters who, like most teenagers, do not always let you in began to open up. They told him about their lives and what mattered to them. As he put it, "It has connected us in a way that is really, really powerful." Presence with teenagers does not require a grand gesture. It requires showing up consistently and refusing to let the screen win the table.


Presence Requires Intentionality

None of this happens by accident. Presence requires great intentionality, whether you are a young father with toddlers, a worn-out dad commuting home in the dark, or a grandfather trying to reach teenagers who would rather scroll. The 2.5 hours that became 7.8 hours did not climb on their own. Fathers decided their children were worth the volume.

If you take only one thing with you, take this: when you are with your family, be with your family. You can be in the same room and still be somewhere else entirely. You can also be the one who breaks a cycle of absence that goes back generations, simply by choosing to be home when you are home. The Shepherd leads His sheep by being with them. Lead yours the same way.

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Ben Markham

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Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

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The Christian life, your purpose, your existence, and the church's reason for being are all oriented toward Him. When a life is oriented that way, that life gets better. We are at our best when we are not putting ourselves on the stage and not chasing recognition. Is Worship Just Singing? Worship is most commonly defined as singing, but that definition is too narrow. Worship is a lifestyle. The way you go about your life either brings glory, honor, and worship to the Lord, or it directs all of that back toward yourself. That conviction even shapes the songs a church chooses. Our worship pastor and I talk about this regularly, because we prefer songs that are consistently vertical in nature. Most of what we sing should be about how great God is and how loving God is, songs that speak to His goodness and His power. The goodness seen in the cross. The power seen in the empty tomb. The goodness seen in His creation of all things, and the power seen in the fact that He will bring creation to an end one day, when we will all stand before Him. Honestly, this is something of a pet peeve. About twenty-five years ago, as part of the modern worship movement, a certain kind of song started to emerge that I would describe as a "Jesus is my boyfriend" song. There is no better way to say it. The lyrics turned very me-centric. Jesus, You make me feel like this. Some of them drifted toward wanting to look into His eyes, as though Jesus were a dreamy romantic figure, and at some point it is fair to pause and say, hold on a second. To be clear, singing to Jesus is good. It should evoke emotion, and it does evoke emotion in me. When you read the Psalms, you find a great deal of emotion, and there are moments where David and others sing in ways that are deeply personal. Songs like that have their place. But on the whole, when we worship, the attention should be going to Him, to who He is and what He did. The Second Purpose: To Equip and Mature Believers The second reason the church exists is to equip and mature believers. Another word for that is simply to disciple. We are called to be in discipleship relationships and to disciple other people. This is not a modern program. It is a function Jesus directed the church toward from the very beginning, and one the first disciples lived out. In Matthew 28:18-20, Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to follow all that I commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age." That is a clear directive. The church goes out, shares the gospel, and then teaches those who follow to obey everything Jesus commanded. Paul puts it this way in Colossians 1:28: "We proclaim Him, admonishing every person and teaching every person with all wisdom, so that we may present every person complete in Christ." He writes about it again in Ephesians 4:11-12: "And He gave some as apostles, some as prophets, some as evangelists, some as pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints, for the work of ministry, for the building up of the body of Christ." That shapes how a church staff and its ministries should be evaluated. The questions worth asking are simple ones. Are people growing? Are they becoming more like Jesus? We were made to be discipled, and I believe we were made to help disciple other people. Who Is Supposed to Do the Teaching? Teaching runs throughout Scripture. Jesus taught. The disciples taught. The apostle Paul taught everywhere he went. Having someone who has studied the Scriptures explain those Scriptures to other people, so that those people can go explain them to others, is clearly a significant deal. Sometimes, though, the teaching role narrows to the point where a church is viewed as having one primary teacher. It is fine for someone to lead in teaching. But a healthy church is full of teachers teaching all the time. What are they teaching? They are teaching what they have learned in their own relationship with God and sharing it with others. You Are Probably Already a Disciple Maker Here is what that looks like in ordinary life. I talked recently with a good friend of mine who is going through a situation I have been through myself. He is a pastor and currently unemployed. I have been there. I have been an unemployed pastor. As we were talking, I started sharing some of what I learned in that season, because he was asking a very practical question: how do I even spend my time now? So I told him a few things. Spend time with the Lord in the morning. Put in the work for your family, and put in the work to find a job. The honest truth is that the resources for a job search in ministry are limited. There are a few websites, some phone calls you can make, and some networking you can do, but you really cannot do more than a couple of hours of that a day without simply trying too hard. Put enough time in that you know you did it, and then let yourself enjoy the afternoon and do something that fills your cup. In the evenings, make sure you are spending time with your family. Do not feel bad about not looking for a job for 10 hours a day, because ultimately you are not the one who is going to find it. God is going to be the one who brings it your way. He told me he really needed to hear that, and thanked me for it. What immediately came to mind, which I said out loud to him, was that the advice was not originally mine. A mutual friend of ours, another pastor, a great guy, had once sat me down and said, here is how I would spend my time if I were you. He said it because he had been unemployed himself at one point. Look at what was actually happening there. A friend gave me advice that helped me in a hard season. It helped me become more like Jesus in that season. It gave me confidence. It comforted me. And when I found myself talking with another friend walking through something similar, I passed that same wisdom along. Wisdom does not have to originate with you. Most of mine does not originate with me. I have been around good people, and I have the Word of God, and that is where most of it comes from. So I pass it along. Where to Go From Here If you have been trying to work out the purpose of the church, the answer is less complicated than it can feel from the outside. The church exists to point every bit of recognition toward God and to help people grow into the likeness of Jesus so they can help others do the same. Both of those are available to you this week without any title or platform. You can orient your ordinary life upward, letting the way you work, eat, speak, and spend your time bring glory to God rather than to yourself. And you can pass along the wisdom that was passed along to you to a friend who is walking through something you have already survived. None of that requires a program, because it is simply the church doing what it exists to do.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

September 13, 2026 • 7 Minute Read
Why You Keep Losing to the Same Sin
The problem may not be your willpower. It may be your aim. The most effective way to stop struggling with the same sin is not to fight it harder; it is to run toward something better, and Hebrews 12:1-2 tells us exactly what that something is. Most of us have tried the other approach. We identify the habit, the attitude, or the distraction that keeps dragging us down, and we set our jaw and decide this is finally the time we beat it. We think about it constantly. How do I get rid of this sin? How do I stop making this mistake? And the longer we stare at it, the heavier it gets. Scripture offers a different starting point. Hebrews 12 describes a great crowd of witnesses, a weight and a sin to throw off, and then it directs our eyes to a specific place: Jesus, the originator and perfecter of our faith. The order matters. The weights come off as the eyes move. Church Should Be Where You Stop Managing Your Image Before we talk about how the weights come off, we have to be honest about why so many of us never admit they are there. I have been in ministry long enough to make a statement that is probably not literally true, but it certainly feels true. I think I am the most lied to person I know. My friends ask what I mean by that, and here is what I mean. Because I am a pastor, everybody wants to be perfect in front of me, and I have never understood it. I am a pastor's kid. I knew my dad was not perfect. Pastors do not impress me, and I do not think they should impress you. I hope you see me as a real person who also happens to be a pastor. What I have noticed is that people manage their image even around the pastor. They feel like they cannot be real and true and honest. And here is the deal. I already know you are not perfect. I am under no illusions. You get up every morning like I do. You put your pants on one leg at a time. You are a real person, and you have real flaws. Church is meant to be a space where we do not have to manage our image all the time. Yet in many places it has become the place where we manage our image the most carefully. That is worth sitting with. If God is speaking to you about this, ask the Holy Spirit to illuminate the moments this week where you have been managing your own image. You cannot throw off a weight you are still pretending not to carry. The Real Reason the Same Sin Keeps Winning Here is what I believe to be true. The most effective way to leave sin and distraction behind is to run toward something better. This is really a question of motivation. If your motivation is not to make mistakes, that is not as good, not as powerful, and not nearly as life-giving as the alternative. A motivation built on avoiding failure keeps your attention fixed on the very thing you are trying to escape. Every day becomes an audit of everything you got wrong. The better motivation is simple. Chase Jesus. Do your best, under the power of the Holy Spirit, to fall more in love with Him year by year, month by month, week by week. Because as you do that, the weights start to fall off. You are no longer spending all your energy asking how to get rid of this sin, this mistake you keep making, these distractions that keep holding you down. I would not spend your time focusing on that. I would spend your time focusing on Jesus. What It Means to Fix Your Eyes on Jesus Fixing your eyes on Jesus is not a mood you work yourself into. It is a set of ordinary, repeatable practices that build a real relationship with Him: a life of prayer, devotion, study, and fellowship with other believers. If you are focused on those things, the weights start to fall off. In fact, you will look back one day and not be entirely certain when a particular weight dropped. You will only know that it does not matter to you anymore. That is a very different experience from white-knuckling your way through another attempt at self-improvement. Jesus Starts Your Faith, Grows It, and Completes It Hebrews 12:2 calls Jesus the originator and the perfecter of the faith. What that means is that Jesus gives us faith, He grows our faith, and He will complete our faith. He is the beginning, the middle, and the end of it. You have faith because of Jesus. Your faith will grow because of Jesus. Eventually, Jesus will complete your faith. It really is all in Him. When we fix our eyes on Jesus, this is what we are signing up for. One of my life verses makes the same promise. In Philippians 1:6, Paul writes, "He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it until the day of Jesus Christ." He began it. He is going to finish it. Hebrews is saying the same thing. That should take an enormous amount of pressure off you. The finishing of your faith was never your job. Every Season Brings a New Invitation to Faith In every season of life, there is an invitation to faith. Getting more specific, in every circumstance there is one. I do not believe we arrive at complete faith in this lifetime, but I do believe every season brings a fresh invitation. Here is what that has looked like for me. I have been walking with the Lord a very long time, basically my whole life. I grew up in church, but at about 15 I decided this was my faith and committed myself to following Jesus. At 16, I was called into ministry. At 18 I started in ministry, and the story goes on from there. Through different seasons, God has built these testimonies of faith. Then my wife and I found ourselves in a season we had never been in before. We had moved before. We had started new jobs before. But we had never both started a new job at the same time in our marriage. That had never happened. It was a brand new thing for us. It had always been that I started a new job and could come home to a stable situation where she was doing well and could be a support. Or she would start a new job while I had been consistent in mine for a while, and we could talk it through. Now we were both coming home exhausted, both processing new things, and both trying to support each other. New season, new invitation to faith. This is why I want to challenge people who have walked with God for 40 years and have started to think they have arrived. You have not arrived, because you have never been in this season before. And in every season there is a new invitation of faith, because He is working to perfect your faith and inviting you further into it. We cannot do this by white-knuckled effort. It happens because of the Holy Spirit's work in and through us, and that is a powerful truth. Where to Go From Here If you are tired of struggling with the same sin, take three questions with you. Do you have a crowd of witnesses? Is there a weight or a sin you need to throw off? And is there an invitation in this season, right now, that the Lord wants to make to you, because He wants to bring you into that perfect faith? He started your faith. He is continuing to grow it. At some point He is going to complete it. So the question for today is simpler and more immediate than beating your sin into submission. What is your therefore? What is your application? What is your invitation?

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

August 24, 2026 • 8 Minute Read
Can God Use Someone With a Past Like Mine?
The short answer is yes, and the Bible makes the case through a woman most of her neighbors would have written off entirely. Rahab in the Bible is remembered as the Canaanite woman who hid two Israelite spies in Jericho and was spared when the city fell. What usually gets skipped is why she did it. She had never met an Israelite, never read Scripture, and never heard it read aloud. She acted because of a story she had been hearing her entire life, and she decided the story was true. If you have ever wondered whether your past puts you outside the reach of God, or whether faith is even possible when you have had no religious upbringing at all, Rahab's story is worth slowing down for. She had every reason to be written off. She ends up in the family line of Jesus. Who Was Rahab in the Bible? Joshua sends two spies to Jericho ahead of Israel's advance, and they are rescued from capture by a Canaanite prostitute named Rahab. Joshua had been one of the original twelve spies himself, so he knew what that assignment cost. This time he does not send ten or twelve. He sends two, in secret, because he already knows Jericho is where Israel is supposed to go first. God had ordered it, and Joshua had been instructed. These two may not have been especially good at spying. Word gets out that they are in town. We do not know how. We only know that word spreads, and that it spreads specifically that they have gone to the house of Rahab. Some scholars think that if you were a spy looking for information, Rahab would have been an intelligent person to approach. In her particular trade, a lot of secrets were shared, and in that era, prostitutes may have been some of the best informed people in a city about what was happening around them. Rahab Had to Choose Between Her Life and Theirs Once word reaches the king of Jericho, he sends his men to Rahab's door, and she is forced into a decision. She can turn the spies over, or she can commit treason. One of those options can get her killed. She chooses treason. She tells the men at the door that they have just missed the spies, that if they hurry down the road they will overtake them, and that if they do not leave that instant they will never find them. The men take her at her word and go. She had already taken the spies up to the roof of her house and hidden them there. We do not know exactly what her home looked like, though we understand it was built into the city wall and she had some access to a rooftop. She goes up to them and tells them they will need to leave that night, before the search party returns, and that they should travel the opposite direction from the one she sent their pursuers. Wait three days, she says, then return to your people. And remember me. What Made Rahab Believe in a God She Had Never Met? When the spies ask her what this kindness is and why she would do it, she answers with one of the more remarkable confessions in the Old Testament. She tells them she knows the Lord has given them the land, that the terror of them has fallen on Jericho, and that everyone living there has despaired. She recounts how the Lord dried up the Red Sea when Israel came out of Egypt, and what Israel did to the kings of the Amorites beyond the Jordan. When those reports reached the city, she says, their hearts melted, and no courage remained in anyone. Then comes the line that explains everything: the Lord your God is God in heaven above and on earth below (Joshua 2:11). Rahab possessed faith in the awesome power of God. Had she ever met an Israelite before? Probably not. Had she read Scripture? No. Had she heard it? No. And she still chose a crime punishable by death over self-preservation, because she believed. Notice what she believed specifically. Most of the gods of her time were regional and specialized: gods of agriculture, of the sun, of hunting, of sustenance. She is saying that the God of Israel holds heaven and earth together. He has everything. That would make Him a larger God than any she had ever heard of. And she was living in the most fortified city in her country. She knew Jericho did not stand a chance against Him. That is absolutely incredible. Faith Can Grow From a Testimony You Only Heard About Do the math on the timeline. The Red Sea had been parted roughly forty years before these spies walked into Jericho. For four decades, that word had been going out across the region. God was working through the testimony of Israel long before Israel ever arrived. That is what shifted Rahab's heart. Not a sermon, not a scroll, and not a personal encounter. A testimony that had been traveling for forty years finally landed on someone who decided to put her life on the line for it. I have to be honest here. Outside of what you read in the book of Acts, I have not run into many people like that. I have never had the experience of meeting someone who said, I have heard about Jesus my whole life, and I have just been waiting for someone to tell me how to receive Him. I would love to have that experience. I never have. But when the spies ask Rahab why she is helping them, she essentially says, I have been hearing about your God my whole life, and I believe He is who the stories say He is. Your Life Is Someone Else's Evidence Here is where this lands in ordinary life. People are watching how you live. They notice your acts of faith, your ability to suffer well, and your willingness to trust God with uncertainty. Whether you intend it or not, that becomes a testimony in someone else's life. It certainly works that way among believers. I have had conversations with friends where I watched them walk through something hard, and then God walked me into the same thing, and I was able to tell them, I believe God is going to bring me through this because of the way I saw Him do it for you. And I have been in the other seat. People have called me and said, " Your courage gave me courage.” There is a testimony at work, and it is usually older and wider than you realize. What Does the Scarlet Cord in Rahab's Story Mean? Before the spies escape, they give her terms. They promise to take care of her and everyone inside her household, but she has to tie a scarlet cord in her window. No cord, no protection. Keep the cord in the window, and they will remember her kindness. Fast-forward to the assault on the city, and Joshua tells the entire army to remember Rahab, look for the scarlet cord, and leave her and her family untouched. God is about to do a miracle at Jericho, but first, take care of Rahab. That cord is not coincidental by any means. When God brought Israel out of Egypt, He told them to take the blood of a lamb and paint their doorposts (Exodus 12). A scarlet cord hanging above a window in a doomed city is the same picture. And further down the line, we see the blood of Jesus on a cross. He is tying it all together. There are threads running throughout Old Testament Scripture into New Testament Scripture that say this is one story and that a redemption story is taking place. Why Rahab Appears in the Genealogy of Jesus Read the lineage of Jesus in Matthew 1, and Rahab shows up in it. Four women are named there, and one of them is a woman who was not an Israelite and who worked in a profession her culture considered shameful. Because of her faith in God, she was not only rescued from the fall of Jericho. She was restored to a position of value and dignity; she was married, and she ended up in the lineage of Jesus Christ our Savior. Who can do that? Only God can do that. Where This Leaves You Rahab in the Bible is more than a story about a resourceful woman who picked the winning side. She is evidence that God moves toward people who have no religious background, no heritage, and no clean record, and that He does not merely tolerate them once they arrive. He gives them a place in the story. Whatever you have heard about God secondhand, from a friend, a family member, or a stranger whose steadiness you could not quite explain, that testimony is doing more work than you think. Rahab acted on far less. And whatever you assume disqualifies you, hers was worse by every standard her culture had, and it did not hold.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

August 16, 2026 • 9 Minute Read
Standing Up for Your Values: What It Actually Costs You
Standing up for your values will require something of you every single time. That is not a warning meant to discourage you. It is simply the math. If holding a value never cost you anything, it was never really a value, just a preference you kept because it was convenient. The moment a value becomes expensive is the moment you find out whether you actually hold it. The book of Hebrews tells the story of a man who did the math and walked away from everything. In Hebrews 11:24-26, we read that by faith Moses, once he had grown up, "refused to be called the son of Pharaoh's daughter." He chose instead to endure mistreatment alongside the people of God rather than enjoy "the temporary pleasures of sin," because he considered "the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures of Egypt." He was looking to the reward. That is defiance. Not the defiance of law, but the defiance of culture and privilege. What Moses Actually Walked Away From It is easy to read that passage quickly and miss the size of the decision. Moses was raised inside Pharaoh's household. He could have had anything he wanted. The women, the money, the access to any room he cared to walk into. The hedonistic lifestyle that came with living in the palace was his for the taking, and he was willing to say that it was not for him. Moses made a choice based on his values. That is the whole of it. He valued connection with the people of God and with who he really was more than he valued privilege and wealth. At some point he said, in effect, I am Hebrew, and I would rather live as a Hebrew with my people and the values they hold than live as an Egyptian with the values they hold and the way they practice what they do. Why the Hebrews Account Reads Differently Than Exodus If you go back and read the Exodus account, you will notice it does not say any of this. All it tells us is that Moses went out from Pharaoh's house, saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew, and acted. He committed murder, which was not the right thing to do, and he buried the body. The next day he came out and saw two Hebrews arguing. When he asked what they were doing, they answered with a question of their own: "What are you going to do about it?" Kill us like you did the Egyptian? Moses ran away in fear and spent a long stretch in Midian before God revealed Himself to him. So where does the language of choosing and refusing come from? Often what you see in the New Testament are things emerging from what is known as oral tradition, material passed along through the rabbis or preserved in other Hebrew texts and then brought into the letter. We believe that the material is informed by the Holy Spirit and gives us further wisdom and insight into the Old Testament Scriptures. What we see in Hebrews 11 is more insight into Moses than the Exodus narrative provides on its own. Who This Was Written For The writer of Hebrews had a specific audience in mind. He was writing to a group of people who had come out of Judaism, people who said We are ethnically still Jewish, but religiously we are Christians now; we follow Jesus. And there was a persistent temptation for them to return to what was comfortable. His message to them was simple. You do not have to go back to that. What you have here is better. Jesus is the better option. You are not the first person to leave something comfortable for something uncomfortable. You are not the first person to turn your back on something with real allure for something that does not carry as much of what the world values. Yes, you are leaving something that looks good. But you are leaving it for something so much better. That is the case he is making, and it is the same case being made to us. Standing Up for Your Values When There Is No Law to Defy Does this resonate more with our culture than the defiance of laws? It should. There are not many laws we have to defy today. But based on our values, we are called to live by faith, to defy culture, and to say plainly: I understand what culture values. I value something different. It is simply not the same for me. Why? Because my values come from the Word of God. Know this. Living by faith, which is to say living by your values, will require faith every single time. If you want to hold your values, it will require something of you. When My Son Had to Choose Between His Friends and His Values Here is a small example, but a real one. A value in our home, taught to our sons from the time they were very young, was this: be friendly to everyone, but choose your friends wisely. We said it almost every night before bed. One of our sons was a little antisocial, which is why we added the first half. He would come to church, someone would say hi, and he would barely respond. We needed to work on the friendly part. But we also did not want him to be friends with everyone. We wanted our sons to choose their friends wisely. My son started at a new school in fifth grade, which meant he was showing up late to the party. A lot of kids had already established their friendships, and he was really worried about making friends. The first group that genuinely accepted him was a group of guys he would come home ambivalent about. I would ask if they were okay, and he would say he did not want to talk about it. Probably a year later, after he entered middle school, he finally came to me and said, I cannot do it anymore. Do what? I cannot sit with them. Why? I keep asking them not to cuss, and they keep cussing. I keep asking them not to talk about vulgar things, but they keep doing it. Sometimes they will be good for a while, and then they will not be anymore. I just do not want to be around these people anymore. I told him I understood. Then I asked him two questions. Do you feel like you have tried to be a witness to them? I have. Have you tried to be an example? I have. Okay. What are you going to do? He said, I am sitting alone tomorrow. That is what you need to do, I told him. That is what you should do. What was playing out in real time was a value he had heard since he was four or five years old finally meeting the road. Choose your friends wisely. He had reached the point where he had to choose his values, and he chose his values. Did he make that decision quickly? Not at all. He tried for a long time to make it work. It just did not work anymore. The shoe did not fit, so he chose to sit somewhere else. What Happens After You Sit Alone He spent a couple of weeks sitting by himself, and I asked him what we were going to do about it. He did not know. So I said, son, you like to gather people; you like to invite people to things. What if you started a club during lunch, invited friends, and just saw who showed up? Maybe you will make some new friends. Perfect, he said. That is exactly what I am going to do. We brainstormed, and I assumed that the next day he would go to his Baptist Christian school and ask to start a board game club. Instead, he went to that same school, secured a host room, and collected 35 signatures for a Texas Hold'em poker club. Among the signatures were the principal and two teachers. The principal called me. Texas Hold'em poker was not valued in that school's culture, and my son had already told his mom about it in the car on the way home, in front of another teacher. We knew immediately we were going to tell that story forever. He pivoted, especially after I spoke with the principal, who laughed it off and was very good-natured. He started a board game club instead, and 45 kids showed up to the first meeting. He found his table. He found people to sit with. God provided in that way. It is a small, simple example. But there are simply going to be times when we have to choose our friends differently, and we make those choices differently than the culture does, because we base them on the values we draw from Scripture. What About the People You Cannot Choose? We can choose our friends. We cannot choose our coworkers. Do you ever wish you could? We do not have that option. But here is what we can choose. We can choose the type of person we will be around those coworkers. We can choose the kind of invitations we will accept from them. We can choose to be who we are in front of them, consistently, without apology and without announcement. There is an opportunity in defying culture, and it is an important one. You do not have to defy a law to live by faith. You only have to be willing to pay what your values cost, the same way Moses was, and trust that what you are choosing is so much better than what you are leaving.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

August 2, 2026 • 7 Minute Read
What God Reveals When He Doesn't Make Sense
You can know God, love God, and still look at your life and think, this doesn't add up. Faith doesn't require you to understand everything God is doing, but it does require a level of trust in who He is. And when God doesn't make sense, it's likely He is revealing something in that moment: either more of Himself to you, or something about you that you couldn't have seen any other way. That truth sits inside one of the hardest stories in Scripture. In Genesis 22, God asks Abraham to take his son Isaac up Mount Moriah and offer him there. Every promise God had made to Abraham depended on Isaac living. Now God appears to be asking for the opposite. Why God Sometimes Asks for the Blessing and Not the Sin God wasn't asking Abraham to give up something bad. If He had been, this story would be easy. Everyone can get on board with surrendering something evil. God was asking Abraham to surrender something beautiful: the son he loved, the miracle he prayed for, and the future he dreamed about. That's what makes this story so difficult. God wasn't asking Abraham to put sin on the altar. He was asking him to put the blessing on the altar. Sometimes the greatest test of faith is not giving up something evil but trusting God with something wonderful. Four Crises Abraham Carried Up the Mountain There was more than one crisis unfolding on that trail. At least four are worth naming. The Theological Crisis God asked for one thing, and now it seemed He was doing another. The promises required Isaac to live, and Abraham was being asked to make an offering of him. It simply wasn't adding up theologically. The Family Crisis One study makes an interesting observation: nowhere does Scripture record Abraham telling Sarah where he was going or what he was going to do. Imagine that conversation. Where are you going? Up the trail with Isaac. Where? Mount Moriah. And what will you be doing there? It's hard to believe that exchange ever happened, and the part that isn't funny at all is the weight of carrying something like that entirely by yourself. The Social Crisis Abraham goes up the mountain with his son and comes back down alone. Everyone is going to ask where his boy is. What is he supposed to say? That God told him to? Some people are going to start to think he's a psychopath. How does a man explain that? The Emotional Crisis This may be the hardest one in the scene, because Abraham looks at his life and has nothing left but a single question: God, why? What Do You Do When God's Plan Doesn't Make Sense? Let's be transparent. Have you ever found yourself in a season where the only honest prayer was, God, sometimes Your plans just don't make sense to me? Where you felt Him leading you one direction, and everything you were actually experiencing was taking you another? Maybe it was a health concern. Maybe it was a broken relationship, an unexpected job loss, a son or daughter who has wandered from the Lord, or a prayer that has gone on and on without an answer. Maybe you have looked at your life and whispered, God, I know You, and I love You, and this doesn't make sense to me. I just don't understand. There is good news in that moment. When you're wrestling, when you're asking why me, why this, and why now, it's likely God is revealing Himself to you, or revealing something about you. When I Couldn't Understand What God Was Doing In May of 2019, I was living in Michigan when I felt the Lord call me away from the ministry I was serving. I took a job in California, moved my family across the country, and trusted God's leading. His calling felt clear, and it very much seemed this was what the Lord had for me. We became part of an incredible church, and a fruitful season hit almost immediately in the student ministry where I was serving as a teaching pastor. Several months later, my mom called to tell me she had stage four cancer. Here is where the tension of the story sits. My parents divorced when I was two. I'm an only child. My mom's siblings had already passed away, and so had her parents. There was no one there to take care of her, and I was on the other side of the country following God's leading and trusting God's provision, unable to fly back all the time. I started to get angry with the Lord, asking Him who was going to take care of her. So my wife and I told her to move in with us and come out to California. She said she couldn't, because of her dog, Pebbles. Bring the dog, Mom. Well, what about Bob, her boyfriend? Bring Bob. There is plenty to do out here. She just said no. In November of 2020, my mom died. What I Prayed When I Was Angry With God I felt so much anger toward the Lord in that season, and I brought it straight to Him. God, I trust You. I love You. I know that You are sovereign, and sovereign means You know all things. That means You knew this was going to happen. So why did You move me? Why couldn't this have happened sooner, or why couldn't I have stayed longer? That's where I wrestled. I didn't get a tidy answer to any of those questions. What God Reveals When You Don't Understand Looking back now, I still don't understand everything God was doing. What I can say is that I discovered so much about the Lord in that season that I would never have learned any other way. There are details I can't go into, but I can share the biggest one. God loves my mom more than I ever could, and I didn't think anyone could love their mom more than I did. I flew home after doing her funeral, and somewhere in the air, with tears in my eyes, it came out: it is well with my soul. Lord, I was okay with You taking my mom. I just wasn't okay with how it happened, that I wasn't there. He began to minister to me right there, and all I could say was, God, You are good all the time, and all the time God is good. Faith Doesn't Require Understanding, Only Trust When God doesn't make sense, faith isn't the thing you're losing. It's the thing being tested, and the test is rarely about handing over something evil. More often it's about trusting Him with something wonderful: the child, the health, the relationship, or the future you had already started to picture. Faith doesn't require us to understand everything God is doing. It does require a level of trust in who He is. So if you're in a season where the pieces aren't adding up, you don't have to pretend you understand. You can keep talking to the God you know, saying out loud that you trust Him, that you love Him, and that this doesn't make sense yet, while you keep watching for what He is revealing about Himself and about you.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

July 20, 2026 • 8 Minute Read
How to Trust God With an Uncertain Future
Most of us spend a good deal of energy trying to remove uncertainty from our lives. We script the vacation, plan out the next few years, get detailed about as many things as we can, and quietly hope nothing catches us off guard. Certainty feels like safety. So it may sound strange to hear someone say they have no desire to live a life without uncertainty. But that is exactly what learning to trust God with an uncertain future has taught me. A life without uncertainty is a life that would not require faith. And a life of faith, as much of it as I can live, is simply a better life. When you look closely at Abraham, you see this at work. Abraham embraces uncertainty, while fear, by its very nature, tries to remove it. echo through the entire chapter for a reason worth understanding. Faith Embraces Uncertainty. Fear Tries to Remove It. Here is the difference in a single line. Faith embraces uncertainty. Fear attempts to remove it. When God called Abraham to leave everything familiar and go, Abraham went, even though he did not know exactly how it would unfold. I want you to hear this from me: I do not want to live a life without uncertainty. That might sound a little funny at first. But a life scrubbed clean of the unknown would be a life with no room left for faith. There are some things I would honestly rather not know. I do not need to know what tomorrow brings. That is a hard thing to sit with, and some of you are reading this thinking, "You don't understand. I script my vacations." Is It Wrong to Want a Plan? No. There is a real difference between being a person who likes to be prepared and being a person who is trying to eliminate uncertainty altogether. Preparation is good. I work hard on a message before I ever stand up to preach it. And yet there is a part of me every single week that says, "Lord, I don't know exactly how this is going to go. I just have to trust that it will be what You want it to be." I can prepare all I want, and there is still an element of faith. I never want to remove that. I just want to keep trusting God with the outcome. What Happens When You Stop Scripting Everything Years ago I ran into a man I deeply admired, Dr. Jack Hayford, who has since gone to be with the Lord. He pastored a church called Church on the Way in Van Nuys, California, a bilingual, deeply evangelistic church that grew to something like eight to ten thousand people. He was known as a man of tremendous integrity. The first two years of my Bible college were actually through his school, one of the original online programs for Christian students, and it was what I had available to me at the time. I got the chance to meet him and be shown around a little. We were making small talk, and he asked where I was from. I told him Michigan, and that my dad lives in Cadillac. He said, "Oh, I've been there." I could not figure out how a man in California had been to Cadillac, Michigan, so I asked him. That is when he told me how he and his wife vacation now that he is close to retirement. They pack bags with versatile clothing, drive to the airport, look up at the board, and decide where to go based on whatever the next flight happens to be. One of those flights had carried him into Grand Rapids, and he drove north until he landed in my hometown. Some of you read that, and it makes you shake. You are thinking, "I do not want a vacation like that." This is not about getting you to travel differently. What I want you to see is that there is something exciting you get invited into when you embrace uncertainty. When you can say, "We do not know exactly how this will work out, but we know we have heard from the Lord to obey Him," it becomes exciting, because you get to watch Him do something only He can do. The Best Decision We Ever Made This is how God has worked in my own life. When my wife and I were in our early 30s, we began to feel like God was bringing our story in Michigan to a close. It was where we were from, where we had lived our whole lives, where I had pastored for about twelve years. I just knew it was not there anymore. God had made that clear through a variety of means: His Word, other people, and our own prayer time. It was time to go. Some people I trusted sat us down and made sure I understood what I was leaving. They said, "You are at a church with its own Christian school. You have two boys, two and four. You can raise them in a wonderful Christian school, probably for free. Your wife is a teacher, and they will give her a job. You have earned all this trust and credibility over ten years. Why would you leave that?" Then they asked, "Do you even know where you are going to live in Florida?" We did not. We were going to stay temporarily at a pastor's empty house. "Do you know where your kids will go to school?" No. "Do you know where your wife will work?" No. "What are you thinking?" I said, "I think God's got it." They said that seemed irresponsible. I said, "It's called faith." I have come to believe that if we have a few fill-in-the-blank questions left in our lives, He likes to fill them in Himself, and then He likes to get the glory and the credit for it. To live a life where He gets the glory is a better life. It is not about what I was able to pull off. When God says go, we go. We were young. We were basically kids, a little family that jumped into a 1998 Chevy Malibu convinced it would make it to Florida. It did not. It broke down in Valdosta, Georgia. Our boys, Max and Malachi, were so small then. On our very first Sunday, Max had a total meltdown and could not be brought up on stage, but little Malachi was there, and God started something that day. When I look back, I can only say that He wrote a better story than I would have. He wrote a better story than I would have, and I am confident He is still doing that. Is the Center of God's Will Really the Safest Place? My wife and I have tried our whole lives, because of the people who discipled us, to stay in the center of God's will. But one of the great lies that gets caught more than it gets taught in the church is the phrase, "The safest place is in the center of God's will." Let me step right on that. The safest place is not the center of God's will. Hear me carefully. It is the most fulfilling place. It is the right place. But it is not the safest place. When God called Abraham from Haran to Canaan in Genesis 12, He was not calling him into safety. He was calling him into faith. We get so obsessed with keeping everything as safe as possible, wanting every part of life secured and settled. God has not called us to live safe lives. Faithful, Not Fearless Did Abraham still struggle with fear? Of course. When he stepped into new territory, he was the one who said, "Let's tell them you are my sister." He was not a fearless man. But he was a faithful one. In the big moments, when God said get up and leave, he got up and left everything he knew and every connection he had. That is the invitation, and it comes with a cost. You do not get to experience the benefits of faith without paying the price of obedience. Trusting God with an uncertain future will not guarantee that everything will feel safe. What it offers is better than safe. It is the chance to watch God write a story you never could have written on your own, if you are willing to get up and go when He says go.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

July 13, 2026 • 8 Minute Read
How to Trust God When You Can't See What He's Doing
Some seasons of following God ask you to move before you can see where you are going. You sense Him leading, but the outcome is invisible, the timeline is unclear, and everyone around you seems to be asking how you can be so sure. Learning how to trust God when you can't see what He is doing is not a lesson reserved for spiritual professionals. It is the ordinary work of faith, and Scripture hands us an ordinary man to show us how it is done. In Hebrews 11:7, the writer holds up Noah: "By faith Noah, being warned by God about things not yet seen." Those first two words, "by faith," echo through the entire chapter for a reason worth understanding. What Does It Mean to Have Faith? At its root, faith is implicit trust in the character and nature of God. That phrase repeats over and over in Hebrews 11, and the repetition is deliberate. The writer is speaking to the early church, a suffering and struggling people, and he is working to build their faith. To trust God's character is to trust two things about Him: His goodness and His power. We trust that God is genuinely good, exactly the way He explains Himself, and that He is powerful enough to do what He said He would do. How do we know He is good? The cross. It is the most powerful demonstration of love, kindness, and goodness in the history of the world. How do we know He is powerful? The empty tomb, because He is the only One who has ever defeated sin and death like that. He is good because of the cross. He is powerful because of the empty tomb. If you hold onto nothing else, hold onto that. Faith Is Believing God Will Do What He Said Essentially, faith is believing that God will do what He said He will do. When you read "by faith" stamped over Noah's life, you are reading a man saying, "I believe God will do what He said He will do." I have an uncle who was a pastor, and one year he served as my camp counselor. I was around fifteen, and he taught a series of devotionals I have never forgotten. That very line came straight from him: faith is believing that God will do what He said He will do. Then he added a second step. Faith is also believing that God is good, and that He will do what He said He will do for you. It is not merely a broad, blanket statement for everyone. It is true of you, individually. That still builds my faith today. When God's Character Is Hard to Understand God warns Noah that something is coming. In Genesis 6:13, He says, "The end of humanity has come before me, for the earth is filled with violence," and He instructs Noah to build an ark of gopher wood. Yet in the same warning, He makes a promise, telling Noah in Genesis 6:18, "I will establish my covenant with you." This is where some of us have to wrestle honestly. We serve a loving God who looks at humanity, sees it overcome with violence, and chooses to end all but one family and start over. That is a difficult thing to sit with. Some have looked at God and called Him a murderer, even accused Him of genocide. If that makes you uncomfortable, the discomfort is worth facing rather than smoothing over. Why should it feel good to learn that humankind had become so corrupt that violence was an everyday practice everywhere you looked? What it really meant was that the iron rule was in effect. Whoever was most powerful took whatever they wanted from whoever they could, all the time and everywhere. The Golden Rule was being practiced nowhere. People were not doing to others as they would have others do to them. So what part of God's character do we see here? We see God as a judge. In our culture, when a judge sentences someone to prison, we do not call the judge an abuser. When a judge hands down even the hardest sentence, we generally understand the judgment as fitting the crime. God, our Creator and the Judge of all things, is saying the punishment fits the crime, and we have to trust Him with that even when it is hard to see. He will judge every one of us; He will judge the nations, and His judgment is perfect and right. That same judgment is also what spares Noah and his family. Faith in Things Not Yet Seen Here is where the story becomes genuinely interesting. Hebrews 11:7 says Noah was warned "about things not yet seen." In Genesis 6:17, God declares, "I myself am bringing the flood of water upon the earth." There had never been a worldwide event like this. Noah is being warned about something he has no concept of. He does not fully understand it; he does not even know how it will happen; he simply knows it is coming because God has told him. The writer of Hebrews includes Noah to remind us of one thing: our faith is not in what we see; it is in who we know. Noah is a wonderful example of an ordinary person who put his faith in an extraordinary God. His posture was simple. "I can't fully understand what is going to happen, I can't see it, I have never experienced it before, but if You said it, I believe it. I'll take You at Your word." That is exactly how the chapter opens. Hebrews 11:1 says, "Now faith is the certainty of things hoped for, a proof of things not seen." To be a follower of Jesus, to be His disciple, means believing not only in the supernatural but in the invisible. That is difficult for our culture, and for skeptics to accept. How to Trust God When You Can't See Him Working Every day I pray to the Lord whom I cannot see. I surrender my life again; I lay it down before Him, and I pick up the cross He has given me in order to follow Jesus, a man I have never met. I see God's activity around my life. I believe I have a personal relationship with Jesus through the Holy Spirit, and that He speaks to me. But these are invisible things. It is by faith that we read the Word, by faith that we pray, and by faith that we trust the Holy Spirit is speaking to us and through us. Living that kind of life is awesome. You will find yourself saying things to other people and wondering whether the Holy Spirit just spoke through you, because you know you are not that smart or that good on your own. You will hold faith in moments when others cannot understand how you have any peace at all. The reason is simple. Something invisible is at work inside you. They cannot see it, but you can feel it, understand it, and know it. It is all an act of faith. Paul says the same thing while writing about death. In 2 Corinthians 5:6-8, he writes that we are "always of good courage," that "we walk by faith, not by sight," and that he would prefer to be absent from the body and at home with the Lord. Think of Enoch, a man who walked with God and then was simply with God, with no record that he ever died. Do you think that took courage? I have to imagine it took real faith. It is hard to picture the conversation where God says, in effect, "Enoch, your time is done, why not come spend time with Me here, since we already spend so much time together," and Enoch simply answers, "Okay." Most of us would freeze at "right now." But Enoch trusted God, even in the face of death. Faith in Who You Know Noah had faith in things he could not see. So did Enoch. So can you. The invitation of Hebrews 11 is not to manufacture certainty about outcomes you can predict and control. It is to anchor your trust in the character of the God who is speaking to you. He is good, proven at the cross. He is powerful, proven at the empty tomb. And He is good to you, individually, not just to everyone in general. When you cannot see what God is doing, remember that your faith was never meant to rest on what you can see. It rests on who you know. That is what turned an ordinary man like Noah into such a beautiful picture of faith, and it is what can steady you the next time God asks you to trust Him before the outcome is ever in view.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

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June 15, 2026 • 6 Minute Read
How to Be a Present Father: The One Habit That Shapes Your Kids
Most dads believe that being in the house counts as being there. You come home, you settle in, and you tell yourself the kids know you love them. But there is a difference between being home and being present, and your children feel it long before they can name it. The good news is that the gap is closing. Back around 1965, fathers were spending roughly 2.5 hours per week with their children. By the early 2000s, that number had climbed to about 6.8 hours, nearly tripling. Today, millennials and Gen Zers just stepping into fatherhood spend around 7.8 hours per week with their kids on what is measured as childcare activities. It does not mean they are playing a game during every one of those hours, but it does mean they are with them. For all the complaints older generations love to lodge against the younger ones, something about the next generation is getting fatherhood right. Presence is a big deal. Presence has impact. What Does It Mean to Be a Present Father? A present father is one whose nearness has weight in the home. The world has changed since 1965, and values have changed even more, but the truth beneath it all has not moved: when you are there, it changes your child. This is the first characteristic of a shepherding dad, and it is woven straight through Psalm 23. You see it in verse two, where He lets me lie down in green pastures and leads me beside still waters. You see it in verse four, where even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. The reason given is not a strategy or a technique. It is a presence: for You are with me. The Lord shepherds by being with His sheep, and that is the model handed to every father. Presence Has Impact There is a video circulating on social media that captures this with painful clarity. A mother set up an experiment with her three pre-teen children, two boys and a girl, alongside their father. She lined all four of them against a wall and read out a series of prompts, asking them to step forward if a statement was true of their experience. The exercise drew a sharp contrast between the way these children were being raised, with a father present in their lives, and the way that same father had been raised without one. At the end, she turned to her husband and said, "Thank you, honey, for breaking the cycle." Here was a man who had grown up without a present father, and that absence did not become his inheritance to pass down. He chose to be present anyway. That is the heart of it. The cycle you were handed is not the cycle you are required to repeat. The Difference Between Being Home and Being Present I grew up with what I believe was a very present father. But years later, he noticed something about my parenting that he had never seen in his own, and it caught me completely off guard. When my kids were small, around one and three, my dad came down from Cadillac, Michigan, to visit us in the lower part of the state. He was in town for a conference and spent close to a week with us. During that visit, he noticed a difference between his fathering and mine, and when he told me about it, it shocked me because, in my memory, he had always simply been there. In his own words, what caught his attention was this: "When Ben got home, he was home. He wasn't doing other things. He was home with his family." He went on to describe his own younger years honestly. He was a bivocational pastor, commuting 70 miles each way to Lansing, and he thought he was a great ballplayer, so he played on three separate softball teams. "I always had stuff that I thought was really important for me to do when I got home, whenever that was," he said. "Ben would get home, and they did stuff together. They played games together. It was a fun time, something for the kids to look forward to. And I just always remembered having something I needed to do." Here is what struck me. What I was doing with my kids when I got home was simply what I most enjoyed doing with them. I did not know there was a difference in volume. My dad saw a shift in volume that I could not see in myself. That is how presence works. It is rarely about a single dramatic decision. It is about where your attention goes in the ordinary hours after you walk through the door. How Do You Stay Present With Teenagers? If small children feel your presence, teenagers test it. My dad has become even more intentional as a grandfather, and two of his granddaughters, my nieces Ava and Jenna, twins now 15, show what that looks like. His conviction is simple: "Grandparenting is an opportunity to make the most important thing the most important thing." Once a month, his school district holds a late-start Monday, and on those mornings, he takes the girls out for breakfast. When they first started going, the girls were buried in their phones. So he set a boundary: "If I'm paying for breakfast, you're going to be with me, because wherever you are, be there." That single boundary changed everything. Granddaughters who, like most teenagers, do not always let you in began to open up. They told him about their lives and what mattered to them. As he put it, "It has connected us in a way that is really, really powerful." Presence with teenagers does not require a grand gesture. It requires showing up consistently and refusing to let the screen win the table. Presence Requires Intentionality None of this happens by accident. Presence requires great intentionality, whether you are a young father with toddlers, a worn-out dad commuting home in the dark, or a grandfather trying to reach teenagers who would rather scroll. The 2.5 hours that became 7.8 hours did not climb on their own. Fathers decided their children were worth the volume. If you take only one thing with you, take this: when you are with your family, be with your family. You can be in the same room and still be somewhere else entirely. You can also be the one who breaks a cycle of absence that goes back generations, simply by choosing to be home when you are home. The Shepherd leads His sheep by being with them. Lead yours the same way.

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor

June 15, 2026 • 8 Minute Read
What Are You Building Your Life On? The Question Behind a Sinking Skyscraper
Jesus ended His most famous sermon with a story, and He did it on purpose. Stories stick in the brain in a way that lists of principles never do. So after teaching everything in the Sermon on the Mount, He gave His listeners a picture they would carry home: two builders, two houses, two foundations, and one storm that revealed the difference. The question that picture forces is simple and unavoidable. What are you building your life on? This is the parable of the wise and foolish builders, and it is not a fairy tale. Jesus was teaching a real audience, sitting in a real place, at a real point in history. You can walk around the Sea of Galilee today and stand near where He likely gave this message. That matters, because His parables are rooted in the everyday world of the people listening, yet the truth inside them applies to every life in every century, including yours. How a Parable Actually Works A parable is a fictional story that carries a heavenly truth. It comes out of Jewish culture, where rabbis used these stories as a primary teaching device, and Jesus was a rabbi. What makes His parables distinct is that they are grounded in the context of His day while the principles inside them remain universally applicable. Once we understand what a story meant to its first hearers, we can take its truth and apply it to our own lives. Parables also run on symbolism. As the story unfolds, you are meant to assign meaning to the characters and details. In this one, four symbols do the heavy lifting. The builders represent us, you and me. After teaching all those remarkable things, Jesus is handing His listeners an invitation: you are going to build, and you will build either wisely or foolishly. The wise builder responds with faith and obedience. The foolish builder chooses to build life on his own terms. The house represents the life you build. When most of us think about the life we have built, our minds go first to our children, our home, our car, our occupation. That is part of it. But Jesus is pointing at something deeper. The life you build includes who you have become. It includes your soul, your mind, and your heart, the seat of your emotions. You have a great deal of say in how that gets built, based on the decisions you make. The foundation is the third symbol, and here the two builders finally diverge. Up to this point they are identical. The foundation represents the decisions we make in life. You could say the foundation is the teachings of Jesus or the principles of Scripture, and that is true, but only because you have to decide what you want your foundation to be made of. It can be built from the Word of God. It can be built from the teachings of Jesus. Either way, it is a decision that you make, and that decision becomes the foundation everything else rests on. The storm is the fourth symbol. In Scripture, storms represent God's judgment. This passage can fairly be read as adversity too, since we have all weathered hard seasons that tested the integrity of what we had built. But the meaning most scholars reach for first is judgment, and judgment in Scripture is God's testing and examining of us. The foundation you have built your life on will be inspected. We will all stand before the Lord, and in this lifetime our foundations will, in fact, be tested. What Both Builders Have in Common It is tempting to read this as a story about a good man and an evil man, but Jesus does not frame it that way. It is not good versus evil. It is wise versus foolish. He is not questioning anyone's motives. He is pointing to the outcome. And before the outcomes split apart, the two builders share a striking amount of common ground. First, both builders listen. Jesus says those who hear His words and do them are wise, and those who hear His words and do not do them are foolish. Notice that both of them heard. The foolish builder is not ignoring Jesus. He is simply choosing something different. There seems to be greater consequence for the person who has heard the teaching of Jesus and then decides what to do with it. This is worth sitting with honestly. Inside the church we can be quick to judge those we consider to be outside of it. But have those people even heard the teachings of Jesus? They may not be as foolish as we assume. There can be far more fools inside the church, people who have heard everything Jesus said and still choose to build their lives on something else. That is real, and it is something we have to face. Second, both builders build a house. You do not actually get a choice about whether to build. Everyone builds one. Every single person constructs a life, and every single life rests on a foundation. The question was never whether you would build. The question is what you are building on. Third, both builders face the storm. When Jesus speaks of a storm in Israel, there are people in His audience who know exactly what that means. The storms of Israel, on the Sea of Galilee and elsewhere, can be sudden, dramatic, and devastating. Nobody in earshot imagined they were exempt. Neither are we. A Modern Tower Built on the Wrong Foundation There is a famous building most people can name from a single phrase: the Leaning Tower of Pisa. People travel there every year for the photo where they pretend to hold it up. It leans because its foundation was weak and it settled on a tilt, just not far enough to fall. Far fewer people have heard of the leaning tower of San Francisco. The Millennium Tower is a 58-story luxury residential building in downtown San Francisco. Construction was completed in 2009. It cost around 600 million dollars to build, and the developers sold roughly 750 million dollars worth of space, so they did very well. One residence sold for around 13 million dollars. This was the premier place to live downtown. Hall of Fame quarterback Joe Montana bought a place there. Seven years in, in 2016, the residents received a letter inviting them to a meeting, where they were informed that the building was sinking and tilting in a way no one had expected. It was supposed to settle four or five inches over about twenty years. Instead it had moved roughly sixteen inches in seven years, and it kept going, tilting more and more on its northwest corner. By 2023 the tilt had reached around 29 inches. On a building that size that may not sound like much, but it is enough that a marble set on the floor would roll, and some of these people live 58 stories up. So engineers had to diagnose what went wrong. Downtown San Francisco is essentially built on about 200 feet of sand, which compresses and hardens the deeper you go, with bedrock roughly 200 feet down. Some buildings drilled all the way to bedrock. The Millennium Tower did not. Its builders sank pylons only 60 to 90 feet down, deep enough to support a smaller structure, but not a tower of that scale. Fixing it took around 100 million dollars and a multiyear effort to reach lower, reinforce the supports, and begin leveling it out. Engineers do not believe it will ever be perfectly level, but they do believe it is now repaired. The builders made the same mistake as the foolish builder in the parable. They chose a foundation that could not carry the house they were determined to build. And just like them, we have a choice to make about the foundation we are going to build our lives on. How to Inspect the Foundation of Your Life The invitation in this parable is not to admire the architecture. It is to inspect your own foundation before the storm does it for you. That is the wise builder's advantage. He did not avoid the storm; he prepared for it by building on rock while there was still time to choose. So take the question seriously. Ask the Lord to examine the foundation you have built your life on, and the one you are building right now. Is it resting on the teachings of Jesus and the principles of His Word, or on terms of your own making that have never been tested by anything heavier than fair weather? The marble has not started rolling yet for most of us. That is precisely why now is the time to look. You are going to build a house. You cannot opt out of that. You will face a storm, and you cannot opt out of that either. The only thing left to decide is the one thing that determines everything else. What are you building your life on?

Ben Markham

Lead Pastor